I’m certainly not an expert on relationships, so I’m always open to new ideas. But I was surprised to read “When living apart keeps you together” by Julia Sklar (https://www.curbed.com/2020/2/12/21133847/couples-living-apart-together-lat-benefits). Is this the secret to a healthy union?
I have heard of couples separated because of work; a promising career sometimes comes before being together every day. But there are people who have gone so far as to have separate apartments in the same building. Such arrangements can be temporary, as in a step towards a permanent bonding, or they can be indefinite. Reasons for two households can range from the trivial — one has a better kitchen, the other a better dining room — to the more practical — one is a total slob and the other is a neat freak.
And of course sometimes it’s nice to just have some quality personal time. “Familiarity breeds contempt” can be traced back to Geoffery Chaucer (https://www.dictionary.com/browse/familiarity-breeds-contempt). (Mark Twain’s version was “Familiarity breeds contempt — and children.”) And at times separate quarters have been absolutely essential for some LGBTQ relationships.
Whatever. I’m not one to judge anything but the final result. If two households work best for you, then go for it.